Anger caused by mental disorder or physical debility.
people are affected by a variety of mental disorders. Getting angry without understanding
the environment is very common. They get upset without reason or for some petty
reason or other. Their friends and family will have to understand this as a state
of mental challenge, like they do with physically challenged people and may have
to develop a tolerance to some extent. In this type of situation, family members
will have to stay the course even though it is troublesome. If it becomes intolerable,
medical assistance would have to be resorted to. Those who are in an immobile
condition may also throw tantrums occasionally, arising out of their inability
to do things by themselves. People who do not belong to either of the above categories
may also show their distemper, arising out of their incapacity to handle some
difficult problems they face. In some cases, self-esteem may make people unaware
of their anger. Such persons often think "I am alright in what I say or do.
Only others make mistakes and make us dissatisfied". They themselves do not
realize this. This becomes a difficult ballgame and may even need medical help
if essential lifestyle modification changes are not made.
Anger accompanied by unrestrained rage.
the joint family system was prevalent in the past days, the elders in the family
usually talk to the children with a little flush of anger. If one is a little
rough, another other will try to mollify the effect on the child Sometimes, in
the interest of correcting the children, such anger may result in an outburst
of shouting. When the children grow up in such environment, it is likely that
they will start bad-mouthing and threatening their parents and elders. This will
then develop into such behavior with the husband/wife and thereafter with their
children also. Further effect of this, would be that most men start displaying
unrestrained ill temper with furious outbursts. Family members would suffer this
out of fear. But over a period of time this could lead to other consequences.
The sort of family life being led like this needs no description. In these circumstances,
it would be better to make such people understand their failings themselves, rather
than trying to correct them externally. If not done, it would lead to the family
becoming a basket case. This type of unrestrained rage leads to ruin of family
life and happiness of everyone. We must realize "Anger" will hurt the
body, mind and the Spirit of everyone.
Fury that bursts like a volcano affects everybody.
up one's gall like a blast is second nature to some people. These beings must
have grown up with their parents not minding their outbursts, as the tantrums
of a child. Everyone else in the family will be always anxious and worried when
he or she is going to blow-up and make everyone else sad and to be worried about
it all the time. In some families there could be fights with other equals, who
also show off their ire. This leads to a person losing his self-confidence and
self-esteem. Often this happens from a husband to wife leading to abuse of the
spouse either way. Many men have the habit of flaring up like a volcano, for no
good reason, with their wives and children; sometimes this may lead to display
of violence like throwing some object at others, even causing injuries at times.
However at other times, in presence of others, they may be normal and lovable.
State of affairs that needs to be changed to combat anger.
may be advisable for those with uncontrollable fits of anger to seek medical aid.
Physical ailments, if any, in them may require therapeutic help. Psychological
procedures may be required in some instances to cure such maladies. Where severe
disorders are ignored on the assumption that it is nothing serious, the consequences
for the family may lead up to divorce. Even when it does not lead to such extreme
level there will be a constant strain in relationship with painful outcome in
family life. People who are habitually prone to shouting, wife-beating and torturing
children must realize their failings and correct themselves. The attitude of "I
have done no wrong" may lead to a day when suddenly the police would show
up at the door, with eventual punishment. Such situations cannot be averted. To
avoid such unpleasant eventuality, anger should be controlled. Those with frequent
bouts of anger must have their health checked up.
those suffering from tension either at home or in the office should be supported
by others. Also there are some who are normally quite lovable, but fly into a
rage occasionally, and hurt others. Such persons usually say that there is nothing
wrong with them, that they have no bouts of anger, they are alright and so on;
and try to avoid taking medical advice. It is difficult to cure such beings. If
friends or elders in the family try to talk to them, it may only make the condition
worse. But, one should try to avail any opportunity to make them understand their
plight. One should not quarrel especially in the presence of children; or abuse
children in an angry state of mind. One should make the best of the hand one is
dealt, and change their way of life suitably. One must analyze and reanalyze their
actions and attitudes and correct them early.